My Three Tips to Build Self-Confidence
Get To Know Yourself
Journaling can be one of the best ways to get to know yourself. Many people don’t know how to start journaling. Years ago, when I first started to journal, I didn’t know how to start, but eventually, when you learn just to let go and write what you feel, you can have a database of all your deepest thoughts.
Another way to get to know yourself is by trying new things. Try a new dish at a restaurant if you like it, then great, if you don’t, then now you know. Get hair highlights if you always wanted to get them. You’re never going to see if you like something or not if you don’t experiment. Being in tune with your emotions and feelings helps filter out whether you are into something or not. It builds self-confidence knowing yourself because even if others don’t get you, that’s okay because you get you. Thanks to the internet you can find other people who share the same interests as you do. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important. Knowing you don’t need anybody’s reassurance is so crucial. Create a Pinterest board with all the inspiring things that you want to try yourself one day. With a new baking recipe, a gorgeous manicure, or fashion, you can become more confident in the things you do, wear, or think. As cliche as this might sound, it’s not about the destination; it’s about the journey. Enjoy the journey.
Change Your Self-Talk
The way we talk about ourselves can be very toxic sometimes. You compare yourself to others and think, why can’t I lose weight quickly after having a baby? Why can she eat whatever she wants and not gain an ounce? Why this, why that, blah blah blah! Do yourself a favor and unsubscribe or mute anyone on your social media platforms that make you feel insecure about yourself. You might think this is too intense, but I feel like this is a must-do at the beginning of our journey to self-confidence. No matter where you are in your journey to self-confidence, I feel like the internet shouldn’t be a place that makes you log off feeling worse about yourself or hopeless about life. You are in control of what you consume; you are the consumer. Whenever you hear yourself going to a dark and negative space, switch gears, and do something else that sparks joy. Sometimes as women, we feel like we don’t deserve to be happy and self-confident, and we attach feeling confident with shame, guilt, any other unhealthy emotions. Maybe other people will notice and not be so supportive of the changes you are trying to make in yourself. Instead of trying to block them out (which might be hard if you live with them), instead consume music, movies, TED talks, etc., that are positive and bring you to life, not knock you down. If you need extra support with setting boundaries, I recommend seeking professional help; here is one great resource you can use today: https://coda.org.
Take Pride in Your Appearance and Environment
One of the easiest ways to build self-confidence is to take care of yourself and your surroundings. When I look good, I feel good. I walk a little taller when people compliment me on my hair or outfit. It feels good when other people notice the effort you put into taking care of yourself. A few people don’t want to see you succeed, but I believe most people want to see you happy and thriving. By taking care of your appearance by wearing clean clothes, or staying fit, and eating healthy foods, all these things can help in building your confidence. People will respect you if you respect yourself. By making your bed every day and cleaning up after yourself, those around you will take notice. In general, doing it for yourself and for those who care about you will be your reasoning for getting up every day and taking pride in your life. God only gave us one body and one life; let’s take care of what He gave us.
Sometimes, the best way to build self-confidence is to talk with friends, siblings, or parents. If you want, you can even speak to me. Please feel free to leave a comment down below. Like this blog post, if you did, consider subscribing to get notified when I come out with more.
-with love, Amanda